Thanks once again to our host Larry D. at Acts of the Apostasy, this bringing old meaning to Man, you’re sick.
The reason I’m asking internet strangers, instead of my dearly beloved, for advice on teen boy chastity, is this: The SuperHusband has ample experience with “Teen Boy”, but neither he nor I had much exposure to the whole “Chastity” thing until well after our teen years. So while we can tell you all about the Marriage-NFP Experience, if we were to draw on our own high school experiences for guidance on how to parent our boy, well, that would not be the most successful method.
And since this is the AoA 3.5 Takes, the Man Event to exceed all Man Events, I’m going to keep on asking.
Here’s the round-up of answers so far:
Darwin wrote from his own experience: Avoid Porn, Develop Aesthetics. That was very encouraging — we have both the porn-free household and the collection of art books (really just two or three, but it’s a start). And I never would have considered the topic this way. I’m really glad I asked!
Christian LeBlanc (this one) writes:
I’d tell my boys that all the trash you see on the net or movies or mags has nothing to do with real men, real woman, and real sex. It’s just a way to get money out of morons. In fact it’s the opposite of those real things, and only idiots waste time on it and screw up any chance of meeting and loving a real woman like my wife, who as my children know is The Most Glorious and Beautiful Woman God Ever Created.
August from Contra Niche say:
If you teach young men to value their first born, they will get in the habit of thinking about whether or not they’d want whoever it is they are looking at (and attracted to) to be their kids mom. It is very effective, especially if you imagine a smart little five year old berating you for your lack of foresight.
Valuable reminders, and it is so helpful to hear this from a man’s perspective. Larry D. assures me he has a post in the works (give him time, he’s got the plague), and I’m looking forward to that.
So here’s a two-part question I still need you guys to answer for me:
- How should a boy deal with the, shall we say, overwhelming physical urges, that are known to afflict young men?
- And how does a mother, or father, provide these bits of practical advice without making the boy die from embarrassment?
So guys, you know how ladies fill magazines with practical tips on cutting calories and avoiding over-eating at holiday parties? We need the pocket guide to keeping it in the pocket. I’m going to temporarily open this blog up to anonymous comments, and as long as they are Catholic* and on-topic, I’ll let them through the moderation queue. What works?
. . . Anna knew right away: Slugs. If you ever need a cheap date, invite a slug.
Well that’s all for today. Tuesday is Link Day for all topics, not just chastity and garden pests. Help yourself if you are so inclined. Post as many as you want, but only one per comment or the spam dragon will eat you up and I’ll never even know**.
*By “Catholic” I mean “all that is true and good”. Your own faith or lack thereof is not the question. A commitment to purity suffices.
** If your perfectly good comment gets stuck in spam, please TELL ME. My e-mail in the sidebar works. I get too much spam to check the spam folder post by post, but I will happily go fish out your misfiled comment if you let me know it’s in there.
QUICK UPDATE: I’ve turned off the anonymous comment feature (6/7/2012). Amazing how much spam this one post generated — apparently hit all the right keywords. I don’t *think* any honest humans were caught in spam (yes, I read it all), but you are always welcome to e-mail me if your comment gets eaten by the spam dragon, and I’ll rescue you. Thank you to everyone who answered, here or elsewhere. I’ll do a round-up post soon.